"Anger is the Seed of Love"

The other night when I was on my way to a "Scramp Therapy" session, I was listening to Dr. Dobson on the radio. I only caught the last 10 minutes or so. The program was titled: The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage. Guest speakers were Dr. Gary Smalley and Pastor Ted Cunningham. They also co-wrote a book about the same. I finally was able to listen to whole message yesterday!

Although the message was geared toward marriage, the first half (day 1) was about anger Pastor Cunningham harbored. Dr. Smalley was a member of the church at the time and became Pastor Cunningham's advisor - so to speak. These are the things he told him that spoke to me:

• Bury anger dead - never bury it alive. If you don't resolve the problem and forgive, it will resurface at a later time.


• Unresolved anger is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to get sick. Harboring anger actually wounds us.


• Anger is the seed of love. Anger closes our hearts - God allows us to work thru our anger to get to the other side. . That one was hard for me to digest. Just how can love be an end result of anger? Is it that once you have forgiven whatever the circumstance, you can move forward and totally see or understand the situation? Maybe see what caused the anger?

I'm still pondering these things. I know I have harbored a lot of anger in my life, and I know the times that I allowed myselft to forgive, I was able to move on and "let go" of what was holding me down. Now, I know I am angry with some things in my life right now and I'm not sure how to go about forgiving, but I am working on that.